Shadow Work

Bring your true self out of the shadows and into the light

  • Home
    • About The Shadow
    • Carl G. Jung
    • The Shadow Work Process
    • The Shadow Work Map
    • Get On Our Mailing List
    • Diversity Statement
    • Contact Us
  • Seminars
    • In Person Weekend Seminars
    • Our Seminar Facilitators
  • Coaching
    • What Is Shadow Work Coaching?
    • Our Coaches
    • Coaching for Businesses and Whole Organizations
    • For Couples
  • Facilitate
    • Basic Facilitator Training In-Person
    • Basic Facilitator Training Online
    • AFT Prerequisite Seminar
    • Advanced Facilitator Training In-Person
    • Advanced Facilitator Training Online
    • SLT Prerequisite Seminar
    • The Shame Lifters Training
    • Processing Inflations Training
    • Coaching Training
    • Leader Training
    • Flow Chart for the Facilitator Trainings
    • Flow Chart for the Coaching Trainings
    • What Does “Certified” Mean
    • Initiation-Based vs Consent-Based Facilitation
  • Calendar
  • Features
    • An Original Shadow Work™ Booklet. Part 1: The Origins Of Shadow
    • An Original Shadow Work™ Booklet. Part 2: The Healing Of Shadow
    • Clean Talk
    • Articles
    • Bibliography
    • Links
    • Get On Our Mailing List
  • Shadow Types
  • Search

Selfish Spirituality

February 5, 2019 By -

February 2019, by Cliff Barry with Heidi Loeppky

I used to call myself Moonbeam.  I was a real Flower Child.  When people asked me where I was from, I would say “The Universe.”    

Now, I was on a significant spiritual journey, an honorable quest, to “let go of the ego” or perhaps even “annihilate the ego”.  And I discovered that there’s clearly some value in letting go of your ego at times.  But letting go of your ego can become like a dog chasing its tail.  I once had a teacher stop me dead in my tracks by asking me:

“And exactly who is it that is trying to annihilate the ego?”. 

“Ooooh…I guess that would be my ego,” I had to admit sheepishly. 

In Shadow Work®, we believe there are 4 main energies that make up a human being, one of which is responsible for sustaining your ego.  Scientists name these genetic pre-dispositions as Novelty-Seeking, Harm Avoidance, Dependence and Persistence.   Everyone has some mix of these four genetic drives.  And your particular mix plays a big part in determining your unique personality.

Your genetic pre-disposition called Persistence has the special function of creating and maintaining your personal sense of self, your ego. 

Your ego is the mechanism that anchors all the other parts of you and gives you agency to act in the world.  Without an ego, you can’t do much in the world.  That’s why we like to say that “Ego is job one.”  If your ego is well built you can be an effective agent of power, love, wisdom and service in the world.  So if you are looking for someone who can perform well under pressure, get someone with a big ego.  That’s why you want an airline pilot with a big ego.  That’s why you want a brain surgeon with a big ego.  Ego is needed to get things done.   

An unhealthy ego, on the other hand, leads to a shaky performance.   That’s why as Moonbeam I had trouble making money.  That’s why you wouldn’t want Moonbeam flying your plane.

A weak ego will cause you to belittle others, in order to temporarily boost your cardboard identity.  Or, in the other extreme, the weak ego with cause you to become a meek, indecisive wallflower who is afraid to take up space by speaking or acting with power.  Both of these weak egos are like a container with cracks and holes through which the energy to get things done simply leaks out onto the ground.

Here’s one of my favorite metaphors to illustrate the value of building a healthy ego.

Your ego is a lot like the earth, orbiting around the sun.  The earth has its own momentum which wants to break out of its orbit and follow its own straight path into the universe, never to return.   You get caught up in this perilous momentum when you feel separate from Spirit (or your Higher Self, or the Divine, or Source or whatever you want to call it).

When you get over-confident (or you start to see yourself as spiritually superior, or you believe you’ve got it all figured out) you are like a planet on a hubristic trajectory, heading directly away from the sun, and therefore away from the center of your own survival.  You probably call this “being selfish.” 

When you are like a planet trying to speed off into infinity, you can, indeed, find some help in the teachings that recommend a dissolution of the ego.   Getting outside your own ego can offer some incredible life-altering gems.  Shifting your focus off yourself and towards something higher is an important step.

But you can overdo it.  Consider for a moment what would happen to the earth if it lost all of its own individual momentum.  Suppose the earth abandoned its own trajectory and surrendered completely to the pull of the sun.  The earth would fall into the sun.  It would absorbed completely by the sun.  And while the sun might become incrementally bigger, all the millions of species of life on earth would perish. 

In a solar system where the sun is powerfully pulling everything in towards itself, the opposing force of the earth’s individual momentum is the only thing protecting life on earth. 

Even though the sun and the earth are essentially one, (all matter is made of molecules that came from stars like the sun) there are millions of reasons to retain a sense of distinctness.  This distinctness allows us to experience a unique essence. 

Like the earth in this story, our ego sometimes has a desire to go off on its own, in the opposite direction of Spirit.  But if our individual momentum can be balanced with the pulling force of Spirit, the self can orbit around Spirit in much the same way as the earth orbits around the sun.  This balance is the most fertile and productive formula yet to be discovered by science.  The human species alone has almost 8 billion unique expressions of Spirit, no two alike, but all manifestations of the same essence.  Each individual ego is a container capable of shaping Spirit into a never-before-seen art form.

Many mythologies present this miracle as the reason life was created, so that the one consciousness could experience its own depth and breadth through a full range of manifestations.

Like light refracting through a prism to disseminate the visible color spectrum, Spirit can refract itself thought your ego, which allows you to fulfill your purpose as one of the most complex and beautiful masterpieces of all.S

Cliff Barry is a Shadow Work Founder, Certified Coach, Facilitator, Trainer and Mentor.

Heidi Loeppky is the founder of Shamaya Tantra and is currently training as a Shadow Work® facilitator. She is the co-creator of the Canadian Tantra Festival and offers regular Tantra workshops in her home base of Edmonton, Alberta. Her websites are ShamayaTantra.com and CanadaTantra.com.

This article originally appeared in our free email newsletter in February 2019. To subscribe, visit our subscription page.

Back to the Articles Index.

Filed Under: Articles, Shadow Work Theory and Model, Spirituality

My Personal Vision by John Crier

By John Crier

Lately, the prevailing paradigm known as western philosophy has come under scrutiny and been found wanting by people who are looking for a new world environment.

During this time of uncertainties, alternative philosophies have been “discovered” and have been presented as being harmonious and desirable as a new environment. Among these recently discovered worldviews are the traditional indigenous philosophies of the North American continent. I believe that the revival of our indigenous philosophy may be our way of contributing efforts to save ourselves, our home, from threat of societal destruction, to ensure the survival of human beings, or if not, at least the survival of Indigenous Peoples.

Traditional indigenous philosophy is recognized for its harmonious relationship with nature. The resulting beliefs of Indigenous Peoples lead towards a way of thinking and behaving which is consistent with being in harmony with Mother Earth. The ancient indigenous populations of this continent were largely hunting and gathering tribes. This way of life, this way of survival created a philosophy in which a harmonious relationship with all of creation is central. This relationship with nature created a way of life in which values other than economic ones became the guiding principles.

These traditional values may provide alternative perspectives to the present western philosophy. Therefore, it is equally important that both Indigenous Peoples and European people become aware of the important role that traditional philosophy may play towards saving our world.

Where is traditional indigenous philosophy today? What of the relationship with nature? In the past, traditional indigenous ceremonies were practiced openly as community events since there were no fears of reprisal for doing so. Daily interaction and becoming congruent with nature was a way of survival; therefore, the Indigenous People became part of the natural environment.

However, the process of “civilization” from European take-over of the continent meant that the Indigenous People were displaced onto reserves. They were prohibited from leaving these reserves, effectively cutting them off from the land, from their historic and sacred sanctuaries. Their ceremonies were banned, which meant that these ceremonies went underground. The ceremonies were no longer visible in public and largely unavailable to the community. As a result, the ceremonies and their practitioners became very secretive; open and public influence of these ceremonies became non-existent. Christian missionary practices were publicly proclaimed as the way of salvation for the savages, whose indigenous spiritual practices were labeled as superstitious and false.

Today, the effects of this process are visible: there are a great many Native people who proclaim Christianity as their faith and denounce traditional spirituality as the work of the devil. Since the reserves still exist, and the colonizing process is also ongoing, a state of confusion exists for many young Native people. A large number of Native people remain disconnected from the land, and consequently from nature. Many of the ceremonies traditionally were related to nature but because most practitioners themselves were also disconnected from the land (nature), their ceremonies became disconnected also and as a result became meaningless to a large degree.

The traditional Indigenous Peoples’ philosophy may be misinterpreted if based on what is visible of Native society today. Negative results are inescapable if a society has been virtually imprisoned in its own land. Even in the 2000s, there is a constant pressure, a constant message that a way of escaping this prison is to accept western philosophy as a way of life, in order to make progress away from a way of life portrayed as inferior.

Many have accepted this; many Native youth have innocently tried to escape this prison without knowledge of the consequences if they make this transition. Many leaders have preached that Indigenous People should take over this system and run it themselves. Many more have given up and died within the walls of this prison. However, it has also become increasingly evident that even an admitted concession to and acceptance of western philosophy is not a guarantee of success or acceptance from the system that runs the prison.

In traditional teachings there is a direction of purpose, such that a person would seek to eliminate boundaries between self and nature. In order to survive, one must commune with the world around the self. There is a great mystery in which all in creation are part of each other; all are related and all are spiritual beings, and therefore, all of life is spiritual.

There is an important relationship that all beings in creation share with one another, a reciprocal relationship. This relationship changes the concept of Mother Earth to that of an animate being. Mother Earth gives gifts and takes gifts from you: you give gifts and take gifts from Mother Earth. Only after this teaching is understood, after this relationship is established, and after the spiritual significance of Mother Earth is accepted does a human ego being begin to suspect and understand how insignificant he is compared to all of creation. This becomes the basis of respect and reference from which he offers his “giveaway” and his then humble prayer to creation.

Indigenous masters of survival understood this relationship. The Okihcih-tawahk people could travel the land with little more than personal sacred pouches; they relied upon and accepted the reciprocity of the universe. Everyone had to learn how to survive; some became masters of their world. The masters learned that one of the primary lessons was to become the best with what talent they were given. The Ontawahtaw journeyed inward for their talent, accepted all of selves good and bad. They then had to master and accept the dominant and awaken dormant energies within and they (energies) became allies of the Ontawahtawin.

Since pursuing inward pathways became a lifelong journey, the masters continued to grow spiritually and mentally. In order to be in integrity with all of personal selves, the Okihcih-tawahk chose and committed to act with loving benevolent intention and lived as if the intention was already carried out, and then the universe reciprocated from energy acted upon it.

The majority of traditional ceremonies are established rituals in this process of reciprocity with Mother Earth or with other animate beings of creation: the giving of gifts, paying respect to and honoring of other animate forms who give themselves as gifts to human beings and ensure their survival. These ceremonies are the established paths to connectedness with Mother Earth, the areas of transition, interaction and form of communication between human beings and other animate beings of creation. In the past, congruency with these teachings, ceremonies and their practices ensured survival for the Indigenous People.

Within the communities of human beings, the established social laws and family relationships derived from the philosophy about Mother Earth. The recognition of success and wealth was based not on the amount of accumulated material goods but on how well a human being understood, accepted and practiced the teachings and ceremonies. Old masters of the ceremonies taught that the consequence of human beings living life in a good way also received material blessings to ensure survival. Thus, a human being was deemed wealthy if he was blessed with an abundance of love and happiness in his life as a consequence of his relationships with Mother Earth. In other words, if he achieved harmony with nature, his survival and that of others with him was assured.

Every year this commitment to being in harmony was practiced through various ceremonies. As with creation evolving through the seasons, the human beings also did their part to be congruent by physically going through the ceremonies of the seasons. Every fall they made preparation for the coming winter, every winter they “hibernated”, every spring they awoke from their sleep, and every summer they looked for and brought home a new tree of life for the community.

Our work today is to interpret what this commitment will look like for present-age practitioners. Our work is to empower ourselves from the ceremonies, to rediscover and nurture the skill of building a harmonious relationship needed to survive in our modern environment. We are entering into a new world; we cannot physically hide, deny or return to what the old people had, but we can learn from them. We can awaken and learn that creation still exists as it existed for them.

Indigenous People cannot flee to another country or to another world; this is our mother land. Many other people living on this land may also share the same fate; many people are also choosing to become part of the land, to become part of creation, to accept and practice what survived the old people long ago. Thus, the spirit of the ancestors is being revived not only by us Indigenous People but also by other people sympathetic to and accepting of that ancient way of life.

Our escape from this burning toxic dream is to awaken and become part of the land again instead of living in a hypnotic trance of captivity. I believe that the trickster has put us in a trance, a bad dream where we have forgotten who we are. Thus, if we arouse from our sleep, we allow us to save ourselves.

Our Mother land and our societies are in a toxic state; from this destruction, there can be regeneration. Are we willing to open our eyes and accept each other? To be what creation has given us to be? Creation will survive; this land will create common ground for all people again. We can choose to shift our paradigm to be more attuned and harmonious with Mother Earth.

This is where the traditional indigenous philosophy may contribute to spiritual survival and to human survival. If we will not renew harmony with Mother Earth, we will not survive.

John Crier is Dean of Indigenous Studies at Maskwachees Cultural College in Hobbema, Alberta.

 

This article originally appeared in our free email newsletter in May 2005. To subscribe, visit our subscription page.

Back to the Articles Menu.

 

Under the Water

January 19, 2018 By -

2003,  by Cliff Barry – 

I have been so intent
on the sinking of my ship
that I was afraid to look
under the water.

Even in the life boat,
I was too busy to see
the other way.

But there it is. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Most Recent, Personal Stories, Spirituality Tagged With: Articles

On Our Way to Bliss?

January 19, 2018 By -

by Alyce Barry – 

I’ve been trying out a new idea lately — that we are all on our way to bliss. We’re all eventually going to get there; it’s just a matter of time. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Spirituality Tagged With: Articles

Shadow Work as Ceremony

January 19, 2018 By -

By Vern Saddleback – 

One of the reasons that Shadow Work® is so effective is that group facilitators create what we call a “safe container.” [Read more…]

Filed Under: Spirituality Tagged With: Articles

Sacredness of Shame and Shadow Work®

January 19, 2018 By -

by Sally Bartolameolli – 

It’s risky to write an article on the sacredness of shame. The very origin of the word shame, defined as “a painful feeling of humiliation and distress,” comes from Germanic meaning to “cover up.” In feeling shame, our natural tendency is to hide, repress and deny it. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Spirituality Tagged With: Articles

Shame, Shadows and Spirituality: The Sacredness of Addiction

January 19, 2018 By -

by Sally Bartolameolli – 

Perhaps it’s true that John F. Kennedy was shot on the very same day that my eating disorder began. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Most Recent, Personal Stories, Shadow Work Theory and Model, Spirituality Tagged With: Articles

SHADOW WORK is a U.S. registered trademark of Shadow Work Licensing, LLC, and is being used by Shadow Work Seminars, Inc. under a license from Shadow Work Licensing, LLC.
© 2026 Shadow Work Licensing, LLC. Used by Shadow Work Seminars, Inc. under a license from Shadow Work Licensing, LLC. All Rights Reserved.
This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.