Selfish Spirituality
February 2019, by Cliff Barry with Heidi Loeppky I used to call myself Moonbeam. I was a real Flower Child. When people asked me where I was from, I would…
Confessions of a Life Coach
June 2015, by Junie Moon Schreiber I wept today. Deeply. Old grief appeared and I knew I must release it to be whole, to be healed, to…
What Does the Jester Want?
May 2014, by Cindy Vargas “I am completely baffled, Cindy,” says Betsy as I give her a massage. “I have these 10 pounds that I can’t quite…
Background on Founder Mary Ellen Whalen
Mary Ellen Whalen (née Blandford) is a native of Park Ridge, Illinois, a northwestern suburb of Chicago.
Birthplace of Shadow Work® Seminars
by Cliff and Alyce Barry – The original version of this article was written when the house was for sale. The cradle of Shadow Work® Seminars, Inc., is an Amish-built log house on…
Background on Founder Cliff Barry
Cliff Barry grew up in Glenview, Illinois, a northern suburb of Chicago, where his family was part of a religious community, The General Church of the New Jerusalem, or “New Church,” based on the writings of scientist and mystic Emmanuel Swedenborg.
Company Background Shadow Work® Seminars, Inc.
Shadow Work® is a personal growth methodology designed to help us understand and balance aspects of our own natures.
Harry Potter and the Secret of Starbucks
by Alyce Barry –
I read the first Harry Potter book while stuck in an airport several years ago, and I was dismayed at how quickly I became an addict.
Under the Water
2003, by Cliff Barry –
I have been so intent
on the sinking of my ship
that I was afraid to look
under the water.
Even in the life boat,
I was too busy to see
the other way.
But there it is.
Seabiscuit: Not About A Horse
by Alyce Barry – I missed Seabiscuit when it was in the theatres last summer. Not too surprising, since I was selling my house, sending my daughter off to college, and moving…
Overlooking the Garden
One of my neighbors owns several classic cars. He usually parks them in his driveway or in front of his own house, but a while back he left his refurbished ’65 Mustang parked on a side street right next to my house.
On Our Way to Bliss?
by Alyce Barry –
I’ve been trying out a new idea lately — that we are all on our way to bliss. We’re all eventually going to get there; it’s just a matter of time.
Tooling Around the Block
by Alyce Barry –
I’ve had different kinds of writer’s block in my life. From writer friends and books, I’ve learned techniques for getting past these different kinds of blocks.
Shadow Work as Ceremony
By Vern Saddleback –
One of the reasons that Shadow Work® is so effective is that group facilitators create what we call a “safe container.”
A Magician, Inside and Out (about Keith Jarrett)
by Alyce Barry –
Keith Jarrett is a pianist known both for his jazz trio and for his concerts, in which he improvises onstage, alone, seated at a Steinway grand.
Reclaiming the Love You Are
by Alyce Barry –
In our last issue, I asked our readers what had changed for them in the four years since the attacks of September 11, 2001.
An Unscientific, Inconclusive, And Entirely Inconsequential History of the Popular Acceptance Of Psychology
by Alyce Barry –
If you used magazine articles to research a high school or college paper before 1990, you probably used the Reader’s Guide to Periodical Literature.
Top 20 Things You Can Learn at Basic Facilitator Training
The Basic Facilitator Training, or BFT, is for people who want to learn about human nature, about themselves, and about how they can help people with troubling personal issues. Here’s…
Munich
by Alyce Barry – Munich is director Steven Spielberg’s film about the aftermath of the 1972 Olympics where Palestinian terrorists murdered eleven Israeli athletes in Munich, Germany. Based on George Jonas’s book,…
Three Uncommon Films
by Marie-Françoise Rosat and Alyce Barry – AS IT IS IN HEAVEN Review by Marie-Françoise Rosat – This wonderful picture, made in Sweden, tells the story of a music conductor who has a heart…
Facilitating the Collective
Having spent 13 years as a ManKind Project leader and Shadow Work® Group Facilitator, I have observed a certain phenomenon on many hundreds of occasions.
Honoring the Pain in My Knees
During most of last year, I experienced significant knee pain, to the point that I was often limping. When I got up from my desk at work, I would actually hobble for a few minutes.
Writing A Shadow Work Book, Part 1: Storytelling
by Alyce Barry –
As one of my readers recently commented, my newly completed book about Shadow Work is a journey.
As you can probably imagine, writing it was a journey as well.
Writing A Shadow Work Book, Part 2: A Box, Not a Bag
by Alyce Barry –
In Writing the Shadow Work Book, Part One: Storytelling, I explained how my new book about Shadow Work®, Practically Shameless, became a personal story rather than a traditional nonfiction book.
What Makes Two Processes Foundational: Ideal Support and the Warrior Run
I work with a variety of small groups which use dramatic emotional work. During the past year, I’ve enjoyed introducing them to Shadow Work® methods, using a simplified version of…
A Benefit Of The Trainings: Encapsulating a Process in Conversation
With each Shadow Work® facilitation training I’ve taken, I’ve developed a more finely tuned awareness of the ways in which human beings get hurt.
Writing A Shadow Work Book, Part 3: You Are Not Alone
by Alyce Barry –
As I begin this third essay about writing Practically Shameless, I’m happy to report that I’ve sold nearly all copies of the first printing and am beginning to plan for a second edition.
David Grove, 1950-2008
A Tribute by John Morrell –
What do you want to have happen here?
Marley, the Mentor Dog
by Alyce Barry –
My parents didn’t want to own a large pet, so my siblings and I grew up owning only the smaller variety: fish, hamsters, guinea pigs, turtles and parakeets.
“Cruel” Disease
by Alyce Barry –
It’s my belief that we cannot avoid learning and growing even if we try, at least not indefinitely or completely. And I think that’s because we’re here to learn and grow.
Reflections on the Roles of Angels
By Alyce Barry Usually when I write an essay, I like to think I can offer more answers than questions. That probably won’t be the case with this one. I’m…
A Little Girl at Christmas
by Alyce Barry –
A revelation that won’t surprise anyone: I sometimes turn into a little girl at Christmastime. I suspect it’s a common phenomenon, in fact.
Acquiring A New Set Of Eyes
March 2010 by Alyce Barry –
I’m working on acquiring a new set of eyes that can see through racial differences.
Barry Family Connection to HBO Miniseries
by Alyce Barry –
My father, John Barry, fought in the South Pacific during World War II and wrote regular letters home to his family.
Butterfly At Rest
by Alyce Barry –
When I think about my totems, it seems to me that some of them are so symbolic of the work I have to do in this lifetime that they will be with me my entire lifetime.
A Few Thoughts On Becoming A Quaker
by Alyce Barry –
I recently became officially a member of a Quaker meeting I’ve been attending off and on for nearly 25 years.
Learning About My Holiday Shadows
by Alyce Barry –
In December 2005, I wrote an essay about the holidays for the Shadow Work® email newsletter.
Wounds Laid Bare
by Alyce Barry –
As many of you know, I take care of my mother, who is 87 and bipolar and currently very depressed.
Blessings From Mary
A NEW BOOK OF DAILY MEDITATIONS BASED ON FEMININE PRINCIPLES
My new book, Blessings From Mary, is a meditation and spiritual guidebook for anyone interested in connecting with their Divine Purpose and Destiny, as well as embracing and honoring Sacred Feminine Principles.
Practically Shameless Now an E-Book
by Alyce Barry –
Practically Shameless is now available as an e-book in a variety of formats and countries.
Life with Movies
by Alyce Barry –
I like watching movies. I don’t call myself a “film buff” because that seems to imply more knowledge than I have about foreign and independent film.
The Healthy Warrior in The King’s Speech
by Alyce Barry –
When the film “The King’s Speech” was in theatres, I heard from a colleague that it showed a therapist using some unusual techniques that weren’t all that different from Shadow Work®. So I watched it with eagerness, and I enjoyed it immensely.
Tools For Couples 3: Passion, Polarity and Parallelism
May 2017, by Heidi Loeppky –
(based on Cliff Barry’s work on Parallelism)
Thoughts on Grieving
by Alyce Barry –
As many of you know, I’ve been a caregiver for my elderly mother for the past few years. She died on September 2, and I’d like to share some of what I’ve learned about grieving.
Giving Back to Rhonda and John Gaughan
By Cliff Barry and Vicki Woodard This article describes a variety of ways in which you can lend support to Rhonda and John Gaughan as John undergoes medical treatment. Please…
The Simple Joy of Rainwater
By Alyce Barry When I see rainwater flowing down the side of a street or crossing a sidewalk before my feet, I feel a sudden, inexplicable joy, and there’s a…
Removing a Blanket
by Alyce Barry –
In Shadow Work®, we sometimes use the term “core dynamic” to refer to the results of an event or situation that deeply hurt all four primary parts of us simultaneously.
Letting Go Of What Didn’t Happen
by Alyce Barry –
Many years ago, a friend of mine became severely ill and nearly died. To everyone’s surprise and delight, he did not die but recovered.
Metaphorically Speaking
“Your internal village sounds like it’s in an uproar,” said the counselor calmly.
“No kidding. Wait. My what?”
Two Short Videos about Authentic Community Training
by Alyce Barry –
I recently learned, by way of a short YouTube video, of an organization called Authentic Community Training (ACT) in Melbourne, Australia, which has been running healing programs for Aboriginal men and young men since 2005.
Debbie Ford, 1955 – 2013
We were shocked to hear of the death on February 17, 2013, of Debbie Ford, whose ground-breaking books brought the concept of the human shadow for the first time to many millions of people not previously familiar with the work of Carl G. Jung.
Di Holmes, 1959-2013
It was with great sadness that we learned of the death of Di Holmes in Denver on June 20 at the age of 53.Di, a certified Shadow Work® Group Facilitator…
The Telling Story
On the Clean Talk CD, Cliff Barry uses the phrase “the story I tell myself” when it comes time for him to own up to how he is assessing a situation.
The “Big Guy” and the Three Big Paradoxes: An Interview with Cliff Barry
January 2014, by Cindy Vargas I’ve been spending time with Cliff working on the Shadow Types Model and encouraged him to begin sharing a more complete context for how he…
Equine-Assisted Shadow Work®
“Believe in your dreams, even when you can’t see the way.” This motto (and potential bumper-sticker) sums up my journey of finding a way to bring my two passions together: Shadow Work® and equine-assisted healing.
Sacredness of Shame and Shadow Work®
It’s risky to write an article on the sacredness of shame. The very origin of the word shame, defined as “a painful feeling of humiliation and distress,” comes from Germanic meaning to “cover up.” In feeling shame, our natural tendency is to hide, repress and deny it.
Valerie Young, 1952 – 2014
We were saddened to hear of the death of Valerie Young on July 9, 2014. Valerie was a Certified Shadow Work® Facilitator and Coach. She died at home at the age…
JourneyDance™ and Shadow Work®
November 2014, by Sally Bartolameolli During the last couple of years in facilitation and group work, I’ve wanted to use my body more. It’s taken me many years…
Healing the Effects of Trauma with Shadow Work®
November 2014, by Karin Green As adults, we often don’t remember the physical, mental, and emotional childhood traumas we experienced, but our bodies always remember. As children…
Introduction to Equine-Assisted Shadow Work®
November 2014, by Chrissy McFarren As a follow-up to the publication of my article on Equine-Assisted Shadow Work® last February, I want to share a few pictures with you…
Taking Shadow Work® into the Colorado Wilderness with Horses
April 2015, by Chrissy McFarren For the past eight years, my husband, Dave McFarren, and I have been hosting and facilitating Shadow Work® seminars at our farm in…
Following The Arc Of Facilitation
June 2015, by Becky Schupbach In a novel or a play, we use the concept of an arc to describe how the story and action unfold. The…
White Fragility and Shadow Work
by Alyce Barry –
Many of the people reading this newsletter know me as the author of a book called Practically Shameless about my journey into Shadow Work®.
A Journey, Not A Destination
April 2016, by Giles Carwyn –
Before enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.
After enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.
– Zen proverb
The Shadow Work Process I Didn’t Do
July 2016, by Giles Carwyn –
I discovered Shadow Work® five years ago. Since then I have done dozens of processes and profoundly transformed my inner landscape and outer circumstances.
Some Differences Between Shadow Work And Anti-Racism Work
July 2016, by Alyce Barry In the year 2001, I was certified as a Shadow Work® coach and group facilitator. In the spring of 2015 I began doing anti-racism work:…
The Warrior and Anger
July 2016, by Jeannie Daly-Gunter Many of us have some fear around Warrior energy both inside and outside ourselves. This article is to help us gain a…
Shame, Shadows and Spirituality: The Sacredness of Addiction
Perhaps it’s true that John F. Kennedy was shot on the very same day that my eating disorder began.
Interview with Dimitri Bilgere
Dimitri Bilgere (pronounced bil-GAIR) was one of Shadow Work®’s first facilitators. “I was always one of those people who was looking for the most effective kind of healing,” he remembers,…
Interview With Janine Romaner
Janine Romaner, ND, is a Shadow Work® Mentor and Certified Facilitator, a founding member of the Shadow Work Guild, a co-founder of Women In Power, and a doctor of natural…
Interview with Jeff Baugher
Jeff Baugher of Louisville, Kentucky, describes himself as a recovered engineer. He also worked as a natural foods cook before developing a practice as an astrologer and Certified Shadow Work®…
Interview with John Crier
John Crier is a Certified Shadow Work® Coach in Hobbema, Alberta, Canada, as well as a mentor to adults and young people within and beyond the Cree community. For eleven…
Interview with Junie Moon Schreiber
Junie Moon Schreiber is a Certified Shadow Work® Facilitator and Coach, interfaith minister and acupuncturist. She grew up in Fort Lee, New Jersey, where she could “hear the traffic on the…
Interview with John Kurk
John Kurk is a Shadow Work® Mentor, Trainer, Facilitator and Coach. He has led numerous Shadow Work events and ManKind Project Trainings in the UK, Ireland, France, Germany, Norway, Austria,…
Interview with Martin Lasoff
Martin Lassoff is a Shadow Work® Mentor and Certified Group Facilitator, and certified ManKind Project Leader. Martin lives in Houston with his wife, Kathryn Urbanek, and has two grown sons. November…
Interview with Sally Bartolameolli
Sally Bartolameolli is a Certified Shadow Work® Facilitator, holistic health counselor, intuitive spiritual mentor and a frequent facilitator for Women In Power. She is co-author of Relationships from Addiction to Authenticity:…
Interview with Vicki Woodard
Vicki Woodard is a Shadow Work® Mentor, Trainer, Coach and Group Facilitator in Boulder, Colorado. After teaching in elementary schools for 29 years, Vicki became a part-time office administrator for…
Interview with Mary Ellen Whalen
Shadow Work® co-founder Mary Ellen Whalen talks about her new path as a Sufi healer and what it means to her to step away from Shadow Work after 15 years. Mary…